When I was chatting recently with one of the ladies whom I most enjoy seeing and spending time with, we discussed about how we both felt, as an Escort and as a Punter, we always needed to be “on top of our game”.
Let’s face it, we all have off days. On this particular occasion, for some inexplicable reason, I was feeling far from at my best. I was not ill, nor was anything else “wrong”, but I just felt flat.
I was concerned she might take it as meaning I was not so pleased to see her or, even worse, bored! However, I was so touched by her response that meeting is about so much more than just sex: In her view, and one I share, it is the “whole package” of the meeting, not just the intensity of the sex, which determines whether it has been a good meeting or not.
It is so true, some of my most enjoyable meetings have been when I have had long and deep conversations about intensely personal things on both sides. Not always down to the number of “rounds” we have, as to the all-round experience.
Undoubtedly we all put ourselves under pressure to be a certain way how we think we should be. However, is this justified?
I do know from my own point of view, there is sometimes a feeling I need every meeting to be amazing, as it is costing me a lot of time and money and effort every time I see someone. However, as I said earlier, there are so many facets to a meeting, rather than just a purely one-dimensional, throw-away sexual encounter.
Other areas where I guess guys may feel under pressure would include:
- Feeling one needs to behave a certain way
- One needs to be amazing in the sack
- One needs to look good
- Need to be in a good physical condition
- One needs to take a decent gift to a meeting
- A feeling one needs to live up to one’s feedback on Adultwork (www.adultwork.com)
As stated earlier, most pressure is self-imposed and is different from the reality. Some of the above list will apply to both ladies and to gents, but I do feel, the genuine Escorts and Punters out there, of whom there are many, will take a person at face value and for whom they are and not what they are or are not.
Of course we are all unique and have our own idiosyncrasies, but this is something we should welcome and embrace, not to try to be something we are not and how we think others would want to see us.
Sadly, in life, there are those who like to judge others. Whilst it is never pleasant to encounter such a person and their acerbic views, be safe in the knowledge they normally act in such a manner through their own insecurities and others will ready give them a taste of their own bitter medicine.
Ignore the negative influences and focus on who you really are and being the best person you can be. More people will be more readily drawn to a self-aware, self-assured person without any brashness.
Under pressure? We are, but only if we choose to put our self in this position.