For me, one of the most disappointing aspects of being a Punter is in having seen a really nice lady once, where we have had a really good meeting and there was a decent connection. Then, for one reason or another, I have not been able to repeat the meeting.
This is a situation which has happened to me on a number of occasions, for a variety of reasons, some of which I wish to explore in this article.
The vast majority of times this has happened to me, it has been for reasons beyond my control. Sometimes these are just life’s unavoidable stuff and on other occasions it has been due to a change of circumstances for either party. And sometimes it has been due to less pleasant and unnecessary reasons………
If you are a regular reader of my posts, you will be familiar with the fact I prefer to see only a few ladies and to see them often. Seeing anyone new, particularly nowadays is something I do not do lightly and I need to be pretty convinced we will click. Therefore, when I have a good meeting, it is something I wish to repeat as soon as is possible to build the connection.
When I first started as a Punter though, I did see more ladies for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I was finding my way in the scene and how it worked, as well as exploring what my preferences were.
Secondly, when I was new to the scene, I did not have any regulars so it obviously took time to build a regular circle.
Factors which can prevent another meeting
There are many factors which have meant I have been unable to revisit I lady I wished to see again. Here are some of the main ones, which I will then explore a few of in more detail:
- Change in my work schedule meaning I cannot reach a certain area
- As I only do incalls, a lady who ceases to offer them will mean we probably cannot meet again
- A change in the lady’s available days and hours
- Receiving a rather odd communication afterwards
- Receiving a nasty communication if cannot see the lady again soon
- The lady increases her prices beyond what can I afford
- The lady moves away
Everyone I see nowadays I have met through the Adultwork website (www.adultwork.com). On this site Punters and Escorts leave feedback for each other and it is then clear for all to see who one has met and when.
For most users of the site this is not an issue and feedback is used for positive purposes. However, a small minority seek to take issue with a guy’s feedback over whom they have seen, how often and indeed how many ladies. Whether it is jealousy or some other insecurity which perpetuates such behaviour I do not know, but it is most unfortunate.
I have encountered it on all too many occasions and whatever the motives behind it, it always has one inevitable effect: I cease to see the lady. I do not feel anyone, gentleman or lady should have to endure such scrutiny, so I will not tolerate it!
There have been accusations of me “seeing too many people” or enquiring why I did not visit that particular lady. As I said, there are probably many motives at play, but I fail to understand how it is anyone else’s business. Firstly, I would never be so rude as to ask a lady about who else she sees and, secondly, I do not remember ever reading anywhere else what is acceptable and what is not.
If one behaves with total deference to all one sees and conducts oneself in a decent manner, what is the issue? Not all of us are based in one place and have a set schedule any way, so we cannot always see the same ladies, even if we are expected to do so!
Fickle hand of fate
At the drop of a hat, circumstances can change in anyone’s life and even the best of intentions can be thwarted. Many a time I have seen a lady and planned a revisit only to find she no longer can accommodate or her hours are prohibitive to the demands of my schedule.
This is always so disappointing and does mean then looking for someone else who shares similar tastes. Clearly this might give the impression one only visits a lady once, but this could not be further from the truth. Indeed, one lady even suggested I just use ladies and have no regard for them. Strange really as we had never met how she could judge me based on so little evidence? The truth is with the ladies I see regularly we do not do feedback, so how can anyone have felt they know me? It is tantamount to having only half of the border of a 1,000 piece jigsaw puzzle and claiming one knows what the picture is of. Blatantly absurd!
I have had several ladies whom I have enjoyed meetings with who then text, email, even call and ask why I have not been back to see them or why I saw someone else. As I said earlier this could be due to a number of reasons on their part, but I do find it a strange way of making a client feel welcome and inclined to return!
Another lady who had emailed and taken issue with why I had not seen her on three separate occasions when I had seen other ladies, failed to remember on two of these I had contacted her, but she had been away. On the third one, I was working just round the corner from another I had seen a few times.
The most bizarre one was a lady who later claimed she was only reconfirming our next booking for two days time (which I had already said I was looking forward to), but she emailed to say she had noticed I had seen another lady a few times so would I not rather see her instead? They were in totally different areas and the other lady I had known for ages.
Whatever the motives, be they jealousy, insecurity, envy, a quiet time, I would hazard a guess they are never going to engender loyalty in the majority of clients!
I have had a couple of times when a lady increases her prices and effectively prices me out of visiting. Of course, this is a lady’s prerogative to charge what she likes, but there will often be a consequence too.
When this has happened to me, I have emailed the lady to say I fully understand but to apologise as the reality means I cannot visit anymore. On one occasion the lady said she was sorry but understood, whilst on the other the lady replied and said it only applied to new clients. However, if I had not taken the time to email her, what would have happened?
She admitted she should have told her regulars and it would have been such a shame to not have met again through poor communication, but I wonder how many clients did not email her, as it was quite demeaning for me to have to do so. It just serves to prove what I have often said as to how we all need to have good, concise and unambiguous communication both ways.
There are so many factors which combine to make a good booking, it is a shame when it is not possible to repeat an experience and here I have looked at a few of the circumstances I have encountered, some unavoidable and some definitely avoidable. I am sure most of us will have encountered other reasons too.