I have often said how I like to take a gift to a meeting, as a token of gratitude and in appreciation of the lady I am seeing.
This is purely my choice. No-one has ever made me do it and I decide the value of it. Yet, it has not alway proved to be a satisfactory experience.
However, a gift is only one part of what I take, as I also take my patronage, often on a repeat basis, with its pecuniary value to the lady concerned.
We all know the proverb of ”Never look a gift horse in the mouth”. I do not know if any other gentlemen Punters can relate to this, but it has sometimes felt like I have been kicked in the mouth instead, but at least I know where I stand.
If I have a hint my time or gift is either not appreciated or I am being taken advantage of, I will either not buy anything and see how things go, or in some cases, stop seeing the lady concerned all together.
I do find it most perturbing how, despite always treating the ladies I choose to see in the most impeccable manner, for some ladies this is quite simply not enough.
I find some ladies’ attitude puzzling beyond the irritating, but more on a business level. If I am “a good client”, “an appreciated client” or one who is always “totally respectful”, why do some ladies seem intent on ruining their own repeat business?
Of course I am only talking about a very small minority of the ladies I have seen here, but it is still not an isolated issue. The types of thing which infuriate me include taking issue with me over my feedback and demonstrating clear jealousy towards me because I have not been to see the lady for a while, failing to understand I do have other commitments in my life and being indiscrete in unquestioning me about my own life in a manner I would never do to a lady.
I covered my views on gifting in an earlier post (see “To gift or not to gift” http://wp.me/p1rllI-59) and I am happy to take something to ladies I have not seen before or for a lady I know better for special occasions, but sometimes a few ladies, even ones I had yet to meet have asked for the most extraordinary and expensive things!
By way of example, here are a few things I have been asked for by ladies:
For first meetings, I only take a SMALL token, as in my mind it should not be about the value, rather than the sentiments behind it. Some requests are totally disproportionate, such as jewellery, Designer shoes or expensive perfumes.
Ladies I have seen just a couple of times have asked for similar high ticket items, as well as Designer dresses, Designer lingerie and, in one case, a computer!
It does make one wonder whether they are sounding me out as to how much I can afford. (See my post ‘Minted‘ (http://wp.me/s1rllI-minted)).
By total contrast, some ladies I see regularly have said not to bring a gift to each meeting as they do not want me to go to too much trouble every time we meet. This is fine. Instead I put the money into seeing them more frequently and for a longer time, if possible and save gifts for birthdays, Christmas and as a special thank you for something in particular or just as an occasional surprise.
Time is money
The far more balanced and adroit ladies know time is money, both to them and to their clients. By visiting regularly, one is giving up one’s time and choosing to spend it with this particular lady and she is remunerated in return.
Surely, even putting the gift issue to one side, the repeat aspect of clients returning regularly must be worth the effort and it must be better to see a group of regulars, with the reassurance that brings, rather than to rely solely on new clients, about whom a lady knows nothing?
This is what business principles and basic common sense would dictate, would it not?
I do find it sad how some ladies have destroyed any prospect of repeat business either through greed, envy, jealous or a simple lack of appreciation of how each client is different and adapting their style accordingly. However, it is their choice and sometimes emotions get the better of all of us, even in business decisions.
Although it is true one can see other ladies, it is such a shame when one is forced to do so through a petty, naive or callous attitude of someone else.
The scene is not so big that word does not get around and both Escorts and Punters need to sometimes draw breath before their emotions kick in and they put their foot in it, as, indeed, we are all inclined to do from time to time.
Just as a lady likes to feel appreciated and of value, so do us mere clients! Fortunately it is only a minority who expend their frustrations inappropriately, but once a Gift Horse has been kicked, I doubt any loyalty will remain.