Massage

I have to be honest, I have never been to either a Massage Parlour or Sauna (except for those at my local health club), so I cannot blog about any experiences within such establishments.

However, I have seen a couple of ladies privately, either in their own homes or in a hotel, on a one-to-one basis, for an erotic or Tantric massage.

There is a very seedy perception towards sensual massage, which, in my experiences to date, just is not warranted. It seems like there is the same titillation as towards Escort services and one hears comments like “rubbed down with an oily rag”. As with most things surrounding the adult industries, there is also a large degree of ignorance and uninformed opinion.

Reality?

For many years, I have had treatment from professional massage therapists for an old whiplash neck injury. What is the difference between this and an erotic massage?

Indeed it is pretty similar, as all the masseuses I have met have been professionally trained and hold good massage qualifications, but the only difference is the client removes his underwear and the lady may remove some or all of her clothing and the client receives the much talked about “happy ending”.

“And they all lived happily ever after!”

The term “happy ending” sounds a bit like something from a fairy tale and it may lead for some to wonder exactly what this is!

Essentially, it is for the client to have an orgasm. It can include a prostrate massage and can be achieved either by a hand job, breast relief (Spanish massage) or oral. Each practitioner will have their own method and sometimes a guy has a choice, whereas with others there is only one specific method on offer.

How to find a respectable provider?

I do have to confess to a limited experience in this field. All of the ladies I have seen have been on the Adultwork website (www.adultwork.com) and one can assess from the profile and the feedback as to the type of service one is likely to receive and what the lady is like.

I believe it is in both parties’ interests to be clear upfront what will be provided and then the Punter can decide if it is what he desires or not. It is also important to be clear, in most cases, it is not a “full service”, that is to say, it does not include penetrative sex.

If this is what the lady says, it is important to respect this. If you are seeking more than this, for everyone’s sake, go and see someone who will provide a “full service”, rather than inappropriately hassling someone who does not do this.

Etiquette

Another area one needs to clarify with the lady upfront, is exactly what kind of interaction she allows. That is to say, where one can touch her and what one is permitted to do. For example, is it a passive massage or an interactive one?

Do respect the lady’s wishes as to where she allows a client to touch her.

Massages can be a very sensual and relaxing experience. With a skilled, qualified practitioner, they can provide quite a unique release and are something which can be well worth a try, either for a change or as a once-in-a-while experience or as a regular fixture, depending on one’s own desires and tastes.

Turning the tables

May I ask a question? Why do the guys always get the massage? Personally, I prefer to give massage rather than to receive it, particularly in a booking. To my mind it fits in with pampering a lady and giving her a treat.

I love doing a sensual massage too. I have had no training other than plenty of practice and following my intuition. I particularly love doing a body-to-body on a lady, but one thing i do try to avoid is getting certain oils on to the vagina, as some of the more scented ones can sting (so I am told).

Why not treat your favourite companions to a massage next time?

Shortly, I shall publish another massage related blog on my introduction to Nuru massage and how it did not go quite to plan………..