Manners maketh man

Let’s be honest, none of us are perfect! No, I’m afraid that includes you. I know it certainly does mean me!

Much as we all like to think we are the finished article, we are not. I know I get it wrong on an all too regular a basis.

Trying to be perfect, or worse still, making out we are is both pointless and disingenuous. However, what really matters, in my most humble opinion, is if on balance, we are generally decent and civil towards others and we behave in a considerate way.

Without the desire to sound out-dated, I do strongly believe manners are as important today as they have always been and I am sure I am not alone in feeling this way.

What are manners?

To everyone good manners will mean different things, as we all have our own core values, our own belief system. However, there are key, generally accepted standards, which the majority adhere to, the values which make society (on the whole) civilised.

Chivalry

I do feel there is still much to be said for a gentleman to behave with impeccable manners towards a lady. Surely this still is important today?

But what does this entail? Simple things, such as complementing a lady on what she is wearing and how she looks, giving a lady our full attention when she is talking to us, opening a door for her, minding one’s language, carrying a heavy bag or baby buggy up the stairs or offering our seat without having to be asked.

These are but a few examples, but generally it is the little things which make a big difference to a lady’s esteem and how we are viewed in her eyes.

Is it worth the effort?

It depends on how one views one’s self and how one wishes to be viewed. Personally, I would say damn right it is worth it! Surely if one places any importance in a lady’s value it is important to do the little things for her, even for ladies we do not know.

It is not some cynical ploy to carry favour or to ingratiate one’s self to a lady. It is purely a way of saying “I value you as a person”. And what is wrong with that?

Sexual equality

I do happily acknowledge for some feminists, such gestures are not appreciated, which I accept as their prerogative, but unless I am aware someone does not want this kind of attention, I believe it is important to show respect at every opportunity to all ladies.

Brotherly “love”!

I also feel a true gent will show decent manners to other Gents too. And what is wrong with this?

I loathe all of this macho posturing some seem to think will make them look “cool”. Really? By putting others down or by being rude, brash or flashy, all it says to me is here is a guy who has no respect for others and his supercilious attitude is an instant turn-off.

Insults

There are those, both men and women, who take great pleasure in insulting others and putting them down. In my mind, this puts them not the recipient down, as anyone can be caustic, but it takes a bigger person to find the good in someone or to not rise to their ignorance.

A favourite saying of mine sums this up well. “Insults: where education ends and ignorance begins.”

Meeting with a companion

When one meets with an elite Escort, I do not see for one minute why this should mean one can leave one’s manners at the door, assuming one even had any to bring along in the first place!

Sadly, too many guys treat ladies as objects and show them no deference at all. It is all about the guy, what he wants and his enjoyment. Such a misogynistic attitude does little to impress a lady or to make her feel appreciated.

As I mentioned earlier, it does not need some Herculean effort, to ride up on one’s white steed, to extract Excalibur or some other supreme task. It is the little things which a lady will appreciate the most, such as a bunch of nice flowers, a simple, yet considerate gift, a compliment or by showing an interest in her, what she likes and by ensuring she will enjoy a meeting.

What does this take? It does not really cost much or take any great effort or time, does it? However, I would strongly opine, it is worth the effort or cost, as it yields a far greater dividend in return.

The satisfaction one gains from such small tokens by far outweigh any effort or cost. Equally, to pleasure a lady during a meeting and to treat her like royalty is something I thoroughly enjoy. To see the pleasure in another’s eyes is reward enough for me. However, although it is not my motive, more often than not it is reciprocated in return.

Personally, I do not give one hoot how sophisticated a society we have become or how technologically savvy we are, if it means we abandon all decent decorum to one and another.

To hide behind one’s keyboard and to offer little snide comments, to continually “big one’s self up” by putting others down or to just be overtly abrasive do no-one any good, least of all to the instigator.

Some like to send rude, insulting or threatening texts to Escorts, which is hardly the mark of a gentleman is it? Even if things are not perfect, sometimes it is better to just walk away with a degree of self-dignity.

Ultimately, I believe in karma and what goes around does have a habit of coming back with added interest. Therefore, is it not a nicer way to be to try to brighten everyone else’s day and to be positive and complimentary, even if we do not always agree with them? Surely This is the true mark of a decent person?

If manners maketh man, what do yours make you?