Gone fishing

In the Escort/client relationship, there are many factors which contribute to create a harmonious meeting and many which will cause one or both parties annoyance.

Many of these factors I have already covered in other similar posts on etiquette, as I feel this is such a fundamental cornerstone of our interactions.

In this particular article, I wish to look at an area which can be an issue for both an Escort and for a Punter, namely, fishing for personal information from the other party.

From talking with many ladies, both ones I know and ones I communicate with, I appreciate how invasive it can be for them, but equally, I know from firsthand experience just how irritating it can be and how uncomfortable it can make one feel.

Leading conversation

When one is in a meeting, taking a stab in the dark here, I imagine we all chat at some point! That said, I did meet one lady where even a grunt seemed like too much effort!

It is sometimes difficult to know what topics are open for discussion and what is considered private. For one person, simple information, such as their birthday or where they live is fine, yet for others it is not something they wish to disclose.

I am fine with whatever level a lady wishes to communicate at and I will always match her level of openness. However, if there are too many barriers, it does not give much ground to form a regular liaison, or conversation soon becomes awkward.

This is not to say I would ever advocate pushing someone for private information, such as their real name or whether they have a partner or not. Equally, I although I am pretty open about myself, I dislike it intensely when I have been pushed for details about my private life, such as where I work, my surname, my background etc. On one occasion, I caught a lady fishing my work ID out of a pocket where it was hidden, but a bit of the lanyard was visible.

When I have been pushed for personal information, sometimes repeatedly, quite simply I do not go back.

Other forms of fishing

A couple of ladies have said how they have caught guys looking through their post, presumably to try to get their real name, which is simply so rude it is deplorable on every level. How would these guys feel if they caught someone doing the same in their home?

Similarly, ladies who work in their real abode will have rooms for their work and one should consider all other areas out-of-bounds, unless a lady says otherwise. For example, I will not even follow a lady into, say, the kitchen, unless she says it is ok.

Ladies have said how they have found clients in their lounge, looking at family photos, in their personal bedroom and even in their office! What on earth do such guys think gives them the right to be so indiscreet?

Another no-no is talking in detail to the lady’s neighbours. If one bumps into a neighbour, I believe a bit of civility is far better than avoiding eye contact, as this instantly makes one look shifty and draws attention to one’s presence. Equally, being rude to neighbours will hardly help the lady.

I have heard stories of where guys have asked a lady’s neighbours about the lady, sometimes even using her working name. If one wants to be so inconsiderate, why not just turn up with a sandwich board on stating what the purpose of the visit is or go ringing on every door bell (something else I have heard of guys doing!)?

Inadvertent indiscretions

I do think ladies can help themselves by clearing obvious giveaways from sight, such as post and photos, but some are less easily avoided.

Several times I have turned up a lady’s place with her car on the drive with a personalised number plate, which is clearly the lady’s name. In such circumstances I believe discretion is the better part of valour and one should make out one has not seen it and to stick to the name the lady uses, until such a time as she says otherwise.

In short, there are often things either party cannot avoid seeing, but one can still exercise a degree of decorum and not comment on it. However, it is a wholly different matter if an Escort or client deliberately seeks to extract information from someone, either directly by asking or indirectly by snooping.

I am sure no-one needs me to say such practices are grossly wrong and our over-curiosity   is nothing more than an invasion of the other person’s privacy. Just as we would not appreciate to be on the receiving end of it, one should never do it to someone else.