It is a fact of life, us men have it easy! You don’t believe me? Let me explain with one simple example.
For us gentlemen Punters, if we want to know how a companion is, we can email her, text or call her. If we wish to see her, we can contact her and ask if it is ok.
What can a lady do by return? Ladies cannot contact guys they have never met and say who they would like to see. Ladies cannot decide how regularly to see a guy, unless he is in touch about meeting. Finally, unless it has been pre-agreed, can a lady even contact a regular client to see how he is?
To my mind, there is a definite inequality!
The only way for an Escort to proactively select who she wishes to see is on Adultwork (www.adultwork.com) by using the Reverse Booking system.
As for how regularly a lady can see a favourite client, it is clear to me, ladies have to walk a very fine line with regulars and this is a subject I intend to explore with a couple of other future posts too.
Even contacting them is fraught with difficulties. For reasons of discretion, generally a lady will not contact a client. But what if she does? How is it perceived?
There are plenty of ladies who do contact clients. I know, I have had plenty of ladies who have contacted me, at various times, by various means and with very varied techniques and motives!
However, it is very difficult for a lady and her clients, as how is such unsolicited contact viewed? Is it a genuine expression of consideration for the client’s well-being? Is it because the lady genuinely appreciates her client? Or is it because she is chasing a booking? It could even be a more sinister reason.
How does a gentleman distinguish the true motives behind unsolicited contact?
In short, I feel a guy has to think with his head and decide what the lady is really like and whether he wishes to see her again any way.
There is no doubt it can feel flattering to receive an email or text saying someone has “missed you” or has “been thinking about you”. We are all human and it is a basic human desire to want to be liked and to feel we are valued by someone. However, without wishing to sound cynical, this is an area some ladies will take advantage of. How do I know? Because it has happened to me oh too often!
Examples of booking chasers
Probably my greatest dislike as a Punter is to have agreed to keep in touch between bookings. Then when I have made contact, my correspondence is ignored, except either just before or immediately after a booking. Then I have received a flurry of communication!
Even worse in my book though, is the stream of communication beforehand yet nothing after the moment I walk out of the door, not even a “nice to see you” or “thank you for your visit” or “thank you for your gift”.
It feels totally demeaning, to be perfectly honest. One feels like nothing more than a booking or another notch on the bedpost. Sure we are all busy, but how long does it really take? I am sorry, but if it is important we find the time! Hell, I am busy, but I always make the time to say thank you!
It is so incredibly shallow and obvious, when viewed with 20-20 vision, for a lady to send an email or text when quiet say she has been thinking about you or misses you, if there has been no other communication. Worse still, if one’s communication has been ignored.
My other pet hate and one which will guarantee I will not see a lady again, is if a lady looks at my Adultwork feedback and says she sees I have seen other ladies in the interim.
What business is this of her’s or what relevance is it to future meetings? Does a lady for a minute think it is going to endear her to a gentleman and make a visit more likely? Common, get real!
I would never say to a lady that I see she has been busy, or “my, you see a lot of people”! How incredibly rude and, to my mind, how naive about how the industry works!
My all time “favourite” was a lady with whom I had had two nice meetings and had a booking for a third meeting, who emailed me to say she could see I had seen someone else (in a totally different area) three times in the interim (it was twice) and would I not rather see her? Fair enough, I did!
There is no place for jealousy in meetings, either way, and if anyone does feel like this, there is no place for them in the industry either as a Service Provider or as a client.
I simply cannot count the number of texts and emails I have received out of the blue saying “miss you”!
On one occasion at the end of last year, I received an email with these two words, nothing more, nothing else! What surprised me most was I had not heard from the lady all year and my two previous emails had been read, but ignored.
However, as I was concerned in case she was not ok, I emailed the lady back. Her reply was she was back in London and saw some Christmas decorations and it reminded her of the gift I had given her two years ago (and not been thanked for!). Then, the coup de grace: “Why don’t you come to see me?”. Er, no!
Another lady had text me with these words and added “I am so quiet, it would be lovely if you came and made me busier, as I have bills to pay”! Sorry, let me think about that one for a bit…….
Contrast this with a lady I have met a few times, who tours London occasionally. we would regularly chat on Twitter with the odd email too. However, when I was off Twitter for a while due to work commitments, it closed this avenue of communication.
I received an email asking if I was ok right after one of her tours and she quickly stated she was not hassling me about a booking. As I know this lady is most definitely not the sort of lady to do this, I was touched by her sincerity. Needless to say, as soon as she was back in London, I made every effort to see her (and boy, was I glad I did!).
This example just goes to show how psychology can work against the Booking Chasers, yet a genuine enquiry will be far more favourably received and I am sure I am not alone amongst gents in feeling like this.
I do genuinely appreciate, it can be very tricky for a lady to decide whether to contact a client or not, but it ultimately comes down to whether her motives are genuine or not, as far as I am concerned.
I do also feel it is difficult for us gents to differentiate between a genuine enquiry to see how one is and a Booking Chaser. I appreciate a lady can seem damned if she does, damned if she does not. But there is a BIG difference between being interested in me as a person and only as a Punter or booking. Some of us can tell the difference too!