One of the defining messages of my blog is of following the proper etiquette at all times, of which time keeping is one of the most foremost issues. I do strongly adhere to and advocate the adage of punctuality being the courtesy of kings.
How is it then, I am sometimes so damn slow at getting round to seeing certain ladies for the first time?
Of the ladies I now know well, for only one of them I did not procrastinate over making the initial meeting. Even here I take no credit, as the lady concerned contacted me via a Reverse Booking on Adultwork (www.adultwork.com).
In all of the other cases, I had every intention of seeing the ladies, but it took me ages to do so. My all-time “record” is a year! It is not something I am proud of in any form, least of all when I consider all of the additional meetings we could have had. Ah, the benefit of hindsight!
So what makes me so slow? Lack of time? Fear?
If only we all had more time……! However, it goes further. It is not just time, it is money too. If only one could see who one wanted and when one wanted.
The other challenge is I prefer to see a small circle of ladies. This is not an issue though, as it is my choice. However, it does exacerbate the situation and results in the names of ladies I have wished to see staying on my “Hot list” for ages.
As I say, this is the reality and does not illustrate any kind of dissatisfaction towards those I do see: It is merely an observation.
Normally I will only see someone new if one of the ladies I have been seeing regularly either stops working, moves away or if there is a deterioration in a relationship for any reason.
Yet, this does then leave a certain dilemma. I do feel like it is akin to starting over. There is the unknown of what someone else will be like. What kind of experience will we have? Will we get on? Will there be any longevity in it?
In answer to my earlier poser of whether fear plays a part, I would say not. There is the fear of the unknown, maybe. However, I never find this disabling, as I strongly opine the best way to deal with this “fear” is to meet it head on and to find out!
There are times things do not really go well. Then there are the occasions when things are fine, but I do not feel either a great connection or I cannot see it as being a long-term meeting.
However, the third category is the one which has then perplexed me the most: How many times I meet someone and say I wish had done it ages ago! Well, there is nothing anyone can do about the past and I do feel better late than never!
I have often joked with a couple of the ladies I see about my tardiness in meeting. Of course they were very magnanimous and totally ok about it. That is not to say they do not rib me a bit, which of course they are quite entitled to do! The usual jibe is “well, I was here, where were you?”!
Naturally every gentleman has a different scenario and his method of doing things may vary from my own. However, I do feel if one has someone who is top of one’s “must see” list, do not procrastinate endlessly. Whilst circumstances may dictate it is not immediately possible to meet, do not lose sight of the reason why that particular lady originally caught your eye.
At the end of the day, would you rather look back with regret at never having met her and wondering what spending time in her company may have been like, or would you rather look back with the satisfaction of meeting an amazing lady………..even if it is better later than never?!